Family Focus
LOVE IS A CHOICE Dr. Gary Chaman
How can we speak each other’s love language when we are full of hurt, anger, and resentment over past failures? The answer to that question lies in the essential nature of our humanity. We are creatures of choice.
That means that we have the capacity to make poor choices, which all of us have done. We have spoken critical words, and we have done hurtful things. We are not proud of those choices, although they may have seemed justified at the moment.
Poor choices in the past don’t mean that we must make them in the future. Instead we can say, “I’m sorry. I know I have hurt you, but I would like to make the future different. I would like to love you in your language.
I would like to meet your needs.” I have seen marriages rescued from the brink of divorce when couples make the choice to love. Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different.